A good sister/friend of mine posted about her thoughts on the way some people choose to raise their daughters on Facebook earlier this week. After reading her post and the comments of other moms, I quickly chimed in. I am the mother of 2 boys so I don’t know first hand what it’s like to raise girls. But there was a time when I was a little girl. While I will admit that I was always a little mature for my age, I was taught to be a respectful child and I knew my place. My mom did her best to dress me as a young lady should and kept my hair age appropriate as well. I can remember one Easter back in the mid-90’s when rhinestones were in. (You remember! Don’t act like y’all didn’t have them in your hair or at least want some!) My cousin (at my request) gave me a french braid with a couple of emerald and sapphire colored stones on each side. I thought I was something! I must have been about 10. When my mom saw those things in my hair she took them out with the swiftness!! She told me that the rhinestones were too grown for a little girl. Needless to say, I was hurt.
As I mentioned earlier, I am raising 2 little boys. I am very intentional when it comes to what they watch, listen to and who they are around. I want my boys to be boys. I make them say “Yes ma’am” and “Yes sir.” I try my hardest to teach them what is right. We as parents need to realize that our job is to prepare our children for their future. We only have a short time to instill the right values and morals. We want to give our children the tools they need to succeed in all they do; In their education, in society, in relationships and in ministry. We need to let our kids be KIDS, they will grow up soon enough. Giving them everything they ask for is not necessary. Dressing them like little video vixens and mini-thugs is probably NOT a “good look,” not to mention the fact that it entices some of these sickos out here that prey on our children.
I look forward to the time when my boys become men. I can’t wait to hear their educators, colleagues, friends and one day their wives tell me what wonderful God-fearing/following/loving men they are. For now, they are my 2 babies. 🙂