The Ugly Truth


Over the past few months I have found myself in a place I have never been in before. I’m used to figuring things out on my own. Lately that has not been the case. Due to circumstances beyond my control I have been forced to rely on family and friends for the occasional helping hand. I know you are probably thinking, “Ok Carla B., so what? What’s so ugly about that?” The ugliness that I found was not in needing the help but in my attitude toward it.

 After having a conversation with my cousin earlier this week it hit me that my pride is far more detrimental than I ever knew. We’re all guilty of being a little prideful from time to time but when it begins to affect others that’s where the problem comes in. Recently I turned down an offer from one of the people closest to me. After I did she expressed her disappointment. It wasn’t just about me. Ok, wait, let me be transparent. My youngest son’s godmother wanted to do something special for him to celebrate his birthday. Because I couldn’t afford to pay her back I said no. She’s been helping me in different ways so much lately I couldn’t bear to have her do another thing. What I didn’t realize was my pride was stopping her from doing something she sincerely wanted to do for her godson, as well as myself and my oldest son. I was holding back what could turn out to be a great memory for my family because I wasn’t the one providing the experience. How selfish and proud is that? When I realized how much I had upset her I felt terrible. I let her know that I had changed my mind and was ok with what she had planned.

“Pride goes before destruction…” Proverbs 16:18a (NKJV)

Asking for help has always been difficult for me but I have come to realize that it isn’t just about me anymore. It is about my children, who have no say in the matter. They are in no way to blame for the situations we face and should not be punished for them. It is about the family and friends I have that love me and offer help because they genuinely want to help. My pride could have destroyed vital parts of valuable relationships. It could have caused resentment toward me in my children.

Think about it. Has your pride gotten in the way of important relationships? Has it caused you to act out of character? Let’s vow to take control of our pride and not let it control us.

To my Cister: I’m sorry, please forgive me! Love ya Boo!


One thought on “The Ugly Truth

  1. That is the ugly truth for many of us. Pride keeps some from making it to the next level because to make it, there needs to be others involved. Too many times, people experience little to no growth because pride holds them down. Great assessment of this, especially within yourself. Hope you come into your next level of growth and maturity when you have overcome this.

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